Sunday, August 30, 2015

Questions and Answers

Answers to your Questions!

I can't really put into words how blessed we have felt this week after announcing our adoption! Thank you so much for all of the love and support! We have been so encouraged and touched by all of the responses!

We have gotten so many questions about our adoption journey over the past week. We thought it would be a good idea to post some of the most frequently asked! Feel free to ask us more, so you can learn as we learn!

Where will Baby Morris be born? Do you have a baby picked out already?
We are pursuing domestic adoption, meaning we are adopting from within the U.S. We won’t know what state or when our baby will be born in until a birth mother chooses us to be the adoptive parents.

How does this process work?

In our last post, we talked about our home study, which is the first major step in our adoption process. We have just started the process of the home study and it can take 4 months to get this completed.

(Refer back to our first post to read more about the home study!)

We are currently working on our Dear Birthmother letter and our online profile book. Our letter and profile book will play an important part in our adoption. This is basically a scrapbook of our lives. It includes pictures of us, describes our life, interests, beliefs and what kind of life we hope to give to a child. The purpose of this book is to allow the birthmother (and father if he is involved) to see if they can picture their child becoming part of our family.

Once we have completed our home study, our letter and online profile book, we will be ready to present to birthmothers. This means that our adoption agency will start “matching” us with potential birthmothers. Our profile book will then be presented to birthmothers. The birthmother could be presented with many books at a time! She will look through them and choose the family she can picture raising her child. We might have to present our profile book to multiple birthmothers before one chooses us! Once we are chosen, than we are presented the birthmothers profile with all her information and decide on if we want to be a MATCH! Once we decide that, than we are committed to that baby (although the birthmother could still decide to parent her child up until shortly after the child is born).

How long will it take?

We aren’t sure! The typical adoption process can take anywhere from just a few months to a few years. Our adoption agency tells the adoptive parents to plan on it taking 12-18 months (once we are approved and “active”).

What are the expenses of adoption?
Adoptions are expensive. Adoptions in the U.S. typically range from $20,000-$45,000. The cost is very intimidating and most people are shocked when they learn about the financial side of adoption.

We are currently researching and thinking about ways to fundraise and finance our adoption. We will be starting to apply for grants once our home study is completed (It is a requirement to wait until the home study is complete). We will be fundraising throughout our adoption process so that we will be prepared financially when Baby Morris is ready to come home!

 How old? Gender? Name?

We are adopting a newborn. We are hoping to be there (wherever it ends up being) the day our baby is born (or as soon as possible).

We are excited to see which baby God will place in our family. When praying and talking about our options, Chris and I both felt like we should be open minded and we don’t have a preference for gender! We might be able to find out the gender once we are matched with a birthmother. However, we might not know the gender until the baby is actually born! We don’t have a name or even starting thinking about names! We will be able to pick the name but we wont be worrying about this until we have been matched which will still be awhile.
Oli (Our dog)?!
It warms my heart that so many people have asked about Oli! If you know me then you know how much I adore my dog! Oli has brought so much joy to our lives during this difficult time. Oli will be just fine! We will continue to show him the same amount of attention as we do now when we get our bundle of joy!

How can we help?

The number one way we would love for you to be a part of our journey is through prayer! There are so many unknowns in this process; we believe that God has a plan for us and that HE is in control! Pray for our hearts to fully trust in Him through the journey!

You can consider to participate in the fundraisers that we will be putting on. We are brainstorming about fundraisers right now and will definitely need people who are willing to volunteer, donate items, time and resources!

Finally, keep asking us about our adoption adventure! We love to talk about it and it helps us feel supported and excited!
We have a t-shirt champain going on until September 11th! We are excited about introducing these t-shirts for our fundraising! When you buy a t-shirt, you will be investing in our family! We cannot tell you how much that means to us. We truly are so grateful for all of the wonderful people who support us!

1 comment:

  1. We had people drop off aluminum cans at our house that they saved for us to turn in for money. Every little bit helped.